CEREMONY MUSIC
Music is a very important part of your wedding ceremony. Before selecting your service music it is advisable to check with your clergy-person and organist on any special rules for music selection that your church may have. Following is a list of suggestions for selecting your wedding music:
- Meet with the organist before you begin selecting your music. Keep in mind that some churches have very firm guidelines on what music is used in liturgical settings. The organist should be well qualified to aid you in selecting your music.
- Music is a service rendered as are flowers and photographs. Be sure to discuss the musicians' fees. They are generally commensurate with the performance experience, number of rehearsals and amount of music to be performed. Do not assume a friend will perform for free.
- If at all possible, bring a musician with you when you select your music. It will enable the musician to play through any music with which you may not be familiar.
- Know your musicians' vocal ranges and musical abilities and keep these in mind when choosing your music. (For example, most popular music comes in only one range and has only piano accompaniment available.)
- To be sure you are ordering the correct music, know the exact title, the composer and/or arranger, the voice range, and the type of accompaniment needed. If possible, know the publisher also – which is included in the wedding music list contained in this chapter. In many cases, the musicians may want to order their own music.
- Be sure to get enough copies of each piece. Copying music is illegal and your church could get in trouble for permitting you to use copies. Most professional church organists maintain libraries of music.
- Select your music as soon a possible. If something needs to be back-ordered or you it can take up to six weeks to obtain. Also, you should allow time for your musicians to familiarize themselves with the music.
- The soloists – vocal and instrumental – should rehearse with the organist before the wedding is to take place.
- It is nice to take the time with your family to discuss your music selections so that they understand the Church's music policies and ritual requirements. It is not a good idea to surprise them with something that may be disappointing. It is also quite possible that a family "favorite" may be inappropriate for what the Church believes is a sacred moment.
- Always have alternate choices. Many times a song may only be available in a collection, or a particular arrangement may have gone out of print, or if you have not allowed yourself enough time, an item may be out of stock. And again, a song may be judged inappropriate in a sacramental celebration. Keep yourself open to new suggestions.
Prelude music can begin about a half hour before the ceremony begins. In a church wedding, these pieces are usually classical organ music, though other instruments such as guitars, flutes, and pianos are sometimes used. Again, consult your musician or clergy-person for suggestions.
If you are having a soloist, the time immediately before the processional is an excellent time for a song. Other songs may be sung during the service if the church customs permit.
The processional music should be majestic and joyful.
The recessional music can have much the same "presence" as the processional, but should be a slightly faster tempo with a hint of excitement.
Processionals and Recessionals For type of food, you can consider the time of day of the wedding for some suggestions. After a morning wedding, you could serve a breakfast or brunch. After a noontime ceremony, you may want a sit down lunch. Early afternoon ceremony could have tea sandwiches, cake and beverages. Mid afternoon ceremony consider hors d'oeuvres and cake. For a late afternoon or evening wedding, probably a seated buffet or dinner-by-the-bite (hot and cold hors d'oeuvres, pastas, sushi setups, meat trays and other bite-size food) reception is best. Generally lighter foods work well in summer and heavier foods in winter. Seasonal fruits and vegetables always work well. Some brides have planned picnics after their wedding, in parks or similar areas. Some have done pig roasts with beer and wine. One bride was doing a barbeque at the beach. It depends on what kind of atmosphere you want at your reception and what is available to you for venue. Generally, a variety of salads, fruits/vegetables/dip, meat/cheese trays and cake would feed lots of people easily. They could be made up in advance and is pretty easy to do For some self-catering items and quantities, see Do it Yourself for more ideas.
Organ Collections
Piano-Organ Duet Books
Organ and Brass
Organ and Other Instruments
Vocal Music for Liturgical Weddings
Vocal Music for Non-Liturgical Weddings
Duets
Dance Music Lists
Reception Music
Sunday, April 29, 2012
Cater Own Wedding
I wanted to know what would be the easiest way to cater my own wedding? Do you have suggestions! I assume that by cater your own, you mean make the food & do all the arrangements yourself. It can be done, but it's a lot of work to add on to your final wedding preparations. Depending on where you plan to have the reception, you would need tables/cloths, chairs, dance floor (maybe), plates, silverware, etc. besides the food.
Saturday, April 28, 2012
Caterer Worksheet
CATERER WORKSHEET
Name of Caterer__________________________________________________________
Contact Person___________________________________________________________
Address_________________________________________________________________
Phone #_________________________________________________________________
Email address____________________________________________________________
Web site URL____________________________________________________________
Location, Location, Location!
Location of Event_________________________________ ____Indoors ____Outdoors
Address of the Location____________________________________________________
Phone # of the Location____________________________________________________
Directions_______________________________________________________________
Is there a kitchen facility with refrigerators, ovens, and barbecues on site?
____Yes ____No
Comments ______________________________________________________________
__________Date of the Event
__________Scheduled Time to Serve the Hors d'oeuvres/Cocktails
__________Scheduled Time to Serve the Meal
__________Scheduled Departure Time
Type of Wedding Reception or Event
Type of Event/Theme
___Wedding Reception
___Rehearsal Dinner
___Private Party
___Other________________________________________________________________
_____Formal Sit-down Dinner Styles: ___ American ____Russian ____French
- American or standard is when the food is plated and portioned in the kitchen and
the guest is served the plate of food while sitting down at the table. - Russian is where the food is plattered and the server portions and serves each
guest a portion of the entrée, starch, and vegetable, served with a fork and spoon. - French is carted and prepared tableside. The platters are presented to the guest
and the guests pass and serve themselves.
_____Buffet (American style: people stand in a food line)
_____Does your caterer provide the servers or is the buffet self-serve? _____________
_____Family Style (Guests help themselves to food in the middle of their own table).
_____Hors d'oeuvres _____Passed _____ Stationary
_____Bar/Beverage Service (Type: buffet bar service or bar service)________________
_____Alcohol --- Do you have a liquor license? ________________________________
_____Will they provide bartender(s)? Is there an extra charge? ____________________
_____Who is supplying the liquor, water, ice, etc? _______________________________
_____Wedding Cake Cutting/Service
Is this service included? Does the caterer provide the wedding cake or do I need
to hire an outside baker/cake designer? ____________________________________
_____Is the champagne toasting service included ___Yes ___No
Menus
_____Prior to meeting with your caterer, go over the menus. Select a menu from their
sample menus or request a custom menu.
_____Discuss the style of food preparation. Are their ingredients/produce fresh?
Do they sub-contact with other chefs/bakeries?
_____Discuss the size and portions with your caterer
Comments__________________________________________________________
Menu Selected (Beverages, Hors d'oeuvres, Main Course, Salads, Side Dishes, Breads, Dessert)
________________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________
Budget
Total Catering Budget $____________________________________________________
$______Reception/Event Site
_______Initial Head Count/Number of Guests
_______Final Head Count (Ask your caterer when the final head count is due.
Generally, most caterers want a final count 1-2 weeks prior to the event).
$______Cost per guest
(Don't forget to ask if there are different prices for children.
Ask about the cost per serving your DJ, Band, Photographer, or Wedding
Professionals)_____________________________________________________
_______Gratuity/Service Charge Included? _____Yes ____No
_______% If no, what is the percentage of the service charge?
_______% Taxes?
_______Deposit required ___Yes ___No
$______How much and when is the deposit due? ________________________________
_______May I make payments? ___Yes ___No When is the final payment due?_______
_______Is the set-up and clean up included in the basic price? ___Yes ___No
$______Overtime Charge___________________________________________________
$______Alcohol/Beverage costs (Ask about corkage/bartender(s) fees)______________
_______Rentals: Do you provide linens, tables, chairs, china, glassware, silverware,
serving accessories, etc.
Are rentals included in the overall cost? __Yes __No
Do they provide the rentals or are they from a rental company? ___Yes ___No
If no, write the name, address, and phone number of rental company or ask
your caterer to handle the rental details_________________________________
$______Total Rental Cost
Comments_______________________________________________________
_______ Select colors for your event for the table clothes, napkins, etc. The caterer
needs to know what your colors/themes are to reflect your style on the buffet or
other tables. Some people have their florists or their caterers decorate the
tables with flowers, centerpieces, or decorations.
________________________________________________________________
$______Wedding cake cost. Is it baked by the caterer or an outside baker?___________
Details, Details, Details!
_______Hours of Service___________________________________________________
_______Staff to Guest Ratio_________________________________________________
_______Staff Dress Code (Formal or casual)____________________________________
_______Contract ___ Yes ___No (Read the fine print)
_______Refunds/cancellation terms___________________________________________
_______"Leftover" policy__________________________________________________
_______Ask your caterer about his/her experience, background, culinary education.
________________________________________________________________
_______Has your caterer handled your type of event before? ___Yes ___No
_______Has your caterer handled the same number of guests that your event has?
_______Licenses/Insurance/Health Permits ____Yes ___No
_______References (Ask for letters of recommendations or for phone numbers of
previous catering clients).____________________________________________
_______Customer Service (Do you feel comfortable with your caterer, is he/she available
to answer your questions)? ___________________________________________
_______Ask for a tasting/consultation_________________________________________
Is there a fee for a "tasting" and can I bring the bride/groom, friend, or family
member? _________________________________________________________
_______Look at pictures of past events your caterer has designed.
_______FINALLY! Once you have interviewed, met your caterer, and perhaps sampled
the food -- Book your favorite caterer!
Bon Appetit!
Copyright 2000 © Frances King, Moosetta's Creative Caterers
Friday, April 27, 2012
Low Cost Catering Ideas
LOW-COST CATERING IDEAS by Frances King
Many people cannot afford a lavish four-course sit down dinner or a full buffet feast for their wedding or event. In most cases, the food and beverages are the largest expenses of a wedding or party. You need to consider the time of the day of your reception or party. The time of your event plays an important role in the type of menu that you are planning. Your guests will expect different types and amounts of food depending on the time of the day of your affair.
General Meal Times:
Breakfast 9:00 a.m. to 11:00 a.m.
Brunch 11 a.m. to 2 p.m.
Lunch 12:00 p.m. to 3:30 p.m.
High Tea/Snacks 2 p.m. to 4 p.m.
Dinner/Cocktails 5 p.m. to 8 p.m.
Passed or Stationary Hors d'oeuvres 8 p.m. and later
Dessert 9:00 p.m. to 10:30 p.m.
If you cannot afford a fully catered event here are some low-cost party ideas. Do not forget to serve beverages and wedding cake if you are getting married. Even the simplest of foods can appear special when presented with flair. In addition, time of year and the corresponding temperatures should be a large factor in menu planning. Generally buffets are cheaper than sit-down meals because the caterer has to provide less waitstaff.
A Tea Reception
A tea reception is inexpensive and it should be held between 2 p.m. and 4 p.m. Tea and coffee is served with a variety of "tea sandwiches" also known as "dainties." The crusts are cut off of these small sandwiches. Tarts, scones, and pastries may be served, as well. Make sure that you add "Tea Reception Following Ceremony" on your wedding invitations.
A Salad Luncheon/Reception
A salad luncheon reception is wonderful if your wedding is late morning. In addition, this type of meal is cheaper than a sit-down meal or buffet. Offer a wide selection of salads such various pasta salads, potato, rice salads, Chinese salads, coleslaw, fruit salads, gelatins with fruit, and green salads. Provide a few salad dressings, fruits, and breads. Include "Salad Reception Following Ceremony" in your invitation.
Hors d'oeuvres Reception or Deli/Party Trays Reception
This type of reception/event is appropriate between 11 a.m. and 5 p.m. or after an evening wedding. Provide light finger foods such as chips and dips, fruit and vegetable platters, cheeses, and crackers. Write "Light Hors d'oeuvres Reception Following Ceremony" on the invitations. If you would like to include more substantial foods that are more filling include meat and cheese trays, shrimp cocktails, oysters, egg rolls, sausages, chicken wings, and tea sandwiches. Include "Hors d'oeuvres Reception Following Ceremony" if you are serving appetizers with meats.
Hors d'oeuvres and Cocktail Reception
This type of reception or party is similar to the one above in regards to time and menus. However, you are serving hors d'oeuvres, cocktails, and non-alcoholic beverages. Include "Hors d'oeuvres and Cocktail Reception Following Ceremony" on your invitations. Request your caterer to include bartending staff.
Decadent Dessert Reception or Dessert Party
This type of reception is suitable between 1 p.m. to 4 p.m. or after an evening wedding. Serve an extensive assortment of rich desserts such as cheese cakes, tarts, tortes, cookies, pies, cakes, pastries, cobblers, biscotti, ice cream, sundaes, and candies. Serve coffee, tea, and other beverages. Add "Dessert Reception Following Ceremony" to your invitations.
A Simple Cake and Punch Reception
You can "Let them eat cake" as long as your event is not during a normal mealtime. Have a simple but elegant cake and punch reception. It must be planned for the mid morning, for the mid afternoon, or for after an evening wedding. In addition, you may include some candies, cookies, and nuts to the menu. Be certain to include "Cake and Punch Reception Following Ceremony." This will inform the guests ahead of time not to expect a full meal.
Other Cost Considerations Location/Rental Equipment
Does the site include tables or chairs or do you have to rent them? Do not forget that you many need to rent tents, linens, and kitchen facilities. You many cut costs by using paper and plastic goods instead of glassware, china plates, cloth napkins, and silverware.
Waitstaff/Duration of the Event
How long is the event? If the event runs over you may have to pay overtime charges. How long do you have the reception site/facilities for? Does the time of the rental of the site and the waitstaff include the time of the set-up and clean up? Ask you caterer to start cleaning up while your guests are still there. If you cannot afford waitstaff consider ordering drop-off food or self-serve buffet food. Or you can have your friends pick up some deli trays or take out food and set up the food with their assistance.
Bon Appetit!
Copyright 2000 © Frances King, Moosetta's Creative Caterers
Thursday, April 26, 2012
How to Interview a Caterer
HOW TO INTERVIEW A CATERER by Frances King
A Complete Guide To Helping You Select A Caterer for Your Wedding or Special Event
Here are a Number of Great Tips and Some Sample Questions to Ask Your Prospective Caterer.
Many people discover that their catered event is the biggest expense of their wedding or party. The cost of your wedding reception or party includes the food, beverages, kitchen staff, waitstaff, rentals, the decorations, and the cost of the reception site itself. About 50% of a couple's wedding costs are the reception. It is very important to know how to interview and to choose a caterer.
Site/Availability
- When you are selecting a facility such as a winery, hotel, country club, park, resort, reception hall, or restaurant you need to know whether the site includes the caterer. Some reception/facility sites have their own in-house caterer and they do not allow outside caterers to provide the food on their site. The site that your choose should match the formality of the event, the theme of your wedding/event, the type of food that you want to provide, and your budget. You may want to reserve a site where you have the freedom to choose your own caterer.
- Is your event/wedding reception indoors or outdoors?
- This is important to know what facilities are available at your site. Some facilities do not have sinks, kitchens, ovens, stoves, or barbecues for the caterers to work out of. In terms of the weather and the menu, the food may need to be kept hot or cold.
- Pick a date! Once you have figured out if you need to hire an off-premise caterer, then you need to find out if they are available on the day of your event or wedding. The caterer you want could already be booked for an event on the same day of your affair.
- You should try to book your caterer at least 6-12 months in advance of your event.
Budget
- Now you need to decide if they can work within your budget!
- What is your budget for your catered event?
- Most caterers require an initial deposit to hold the date of your event. Is there a deposit required? What is the initial deposit and when is it due?
- Are installments or payment plans available?
- When is the final payment due for the catering?
- Is there a gratuity or service charge? How much are the taxes?
- How many hours of service does the caterer include in their overall cost?
- How much extra will it be if my event runs overtime?
- What does the caterer include in the price (e.g., set-up, clean up, staff, food, rentals, etc.)?
Experience
- How long has the caterer been in business? Ask them about their experience, background, and culinary education.
- Have they catered weddings or your type of event previously? Have they handled the amount of guests that you have invited?
- Can they handle small or large events? What is the number of guests of the largest event that they have managed?
License/Liability/Health
- Are they licensed?
- Are they insured?
- Do they have health permits?
Alcohol
- Do they have a liquor license to purchase alcohol? If no, are they willing to serve your alcohol? Does your caterer provide bartender(s) to serve your beverages? How much extra is this service?
- Is there a corkage fee for serving my own wine?
- Is champagne service included for my wedding toast?
- Are the beverages served at the bar, buffet style, and do the waitstaff refill drinks at the tables?
- Ice; don't forget that you may need ice for the keg, bar, carafes of water. A good rule of thumb is ½ of pound of ice per guest. You may need extra ice in really hot weather.
Rentals/Equipment
- What rentals are needed for your event?
- Is the rental equipment provided through the catering company or through a rental company?
- There are many details to consider such as tables, and chairs, plates, napkins, table linens, chaffers, glassware, sternos, silverware, serving pieces, tents, etc. Some people choose to use plastic flatware and paper plates in order to save money.
- Rental costs add up quickly if you rent extra silverware such as salad and dessert forks, bread/butter knives, dessert spoons, along with the basic table setting of forks, knives, and spoons.
- There are many different grades of silverware, tableware, glassware, etc, and different colors of linens to choose from. You need to make some choices and find out the price differences for your rentals.
- Your caterer can help you figure out what items that you need to rent.
- Request to see samples of equipment to make sure it is what you want, that's it's not old, chipped, or in poor condition.
- Most caterers charge you for rental equipment. Some caterers include the cost of rentals along with their food prices per guest.
Head Count
- Prices are usually based on the number of guests that you plan to invite to your wedding or event. The caterer will need an initial head count or a rough idea of the amount of your guests.
- When does the caterer need to know the final head count? When you send out your invitations, keep in mind that the most caterers want a final count 1-2 weeks before your event.
- Does the head count include other wedding/party vendors, such as the DJ, Band, Wedding Consultant, and Photographer?
- Is there a price difference for the children and the wedding/party professionals?
- Is there some place else for the vendors to eat, out of site from your guests.
Menus
- Do they have set menus or can they customize menus according to the theme or style of your event?
- Can they provide special menus such as vegetarian cuisine, kosher cuisine, or are they able to accommodate guests with food allergies.
Service
- What methods do you want your food/beverages served?
- Are the hors d'oeuvres passed around to the guests by the wait staff or are the hors d'oeuvres stationary (sitting on a table)?
- What style do you want your main meal served? Types to consider are buffet, seated or sit-down, French, Russian, and family styles. Ask your caterer about different styles of service that they provide. Specify what services are included and what details that they do not handle.
- Serving Styles:
- 1. Seated or standard sit-down service is when the food is plated and portioned in the kitchen and the guest is served the plate of food while sitting down at the table.
- 2. Russian Style is where the food is plattered and the server portions and serves each guest a portion of the entrée, starch, and vegetable, served with a fork and spoon.
- 3. French Style is when the food is plattered tableside. The platters are presented to the guests and the guests pass and serve themselves. This requires more space and service can be slow.
- 4. Family Style is when the food is in bowls and on platters in the middle of the table and the quests help themselves.
- 5. Buffet style is when the people stand in a food line.
- Does your caterer provide servers or is the buffet self serve?
- Does the catering include wedding cake service or do you have to hire someone to cut and serve the cake?
- Dress code for the waitstaff. Is it formal or casual? The attire should reflect the formality/theme of your event. The staff may wear tuxedo shirts with bow ties and blank pants or skirts. Butler style is when the waitpersons where white gloves. If you are having a Hawaiian theme party, ask your caterer to have the waitstaff where Hawaiian shirts.
Ratio
- What is the staff to guest ratio? Generally, there should be at least one server per 30 guests for a buffet and one server per 20 guests for a sit-down dinner. However, it depends on how formal or complicated the event is. The ratio may be reduced, depending on these factors. A lavish six-course, sit-down dinner may require one server per 10-12 guests. Discuss the staff to guest ratio with your caterer.
Food
- Does the caterer use fresh ingredients/produce or does he/she use canned or frozen ingredients?
- Who are their food/produce suppliers?
- Do they bake their own breads/desserts or do they contract out to bakeries/chefs?
- Generally speaking, the price of food includes all of the ingredients, preparation, and transportation of the food to your site.
- Discuss portion sizes and the amount of food that needs to be prepared.
Contract/Refunds/Cancellations
- Request a contract or proposal.
- What are the general terms of the contract?
- What is their cancellation policy?
- Is your deposit refundable if your wedding/event is cancelled?
- Read all of the fine print including their cancellation policy, price per person, service charges, and taxes.
- After you read the contract make sure all parties that are involved sign it. Be ready to put down an initial deposit.
- The contract should include:
- 1. The date, time, location of the event, and hours of service provided by the caterer.
- 2. The date that you need to provide the final head count.
- 3. The list of services provided (e.g. buffet, sit-down meal, bar service, wedding cake service, etc.)
- 4. The menu that you have selected.
- 5. The fees, including an extra expenses, a payment schedule, and when the final balance is due.
- 6. The name of the caterer handling the event.
- 7. Finally, your contract should include the caterer's cancellation policy.
Customer Service
- Talk to your caterer on the phone. Request the menus ahead of time. Then, schedule an appointment and meet with your prospective caterer in person.
- How does your caterer deal with you?
- Do you feel comfortable with your caterer?
- Does your caterer communicate with you effectively and is he/she helpful?
- Your caterer should be available by appointment and by phone to answer any questions that you may have.
Tasting
- Will your caterer provide an initial tasting/consultation? Some caterers will ask you to come in for a free tasting. Others will charge a fee. Some caterers will ask you to come into their restaurant if you want to try the food. However, some caterers do not provide tastings at all. They will give you references and show you pictures of their presentations of food. Be aware that preparing a meal for a few people and a few hundred is very different in the quantity, holding, and the transportation of the food.
- Judging the food at the caterer's kitchen is not always a true example of the food that is served at an event.
- If you do go in for a tasting, ask your caterer is the tasting for free or does he/she charge a fee for the sampling?
- How many people can I bring to the tasting?
- Don't assume that you can bring 5 or 6 people to a tasting. Tastings are expensive and complicated to provide for the caterer. Ask if you can bring someone along, such as the bride or groom.
- Request to look at pictures of events that they have done in the past.
References
- Request references from your caterer. Ask your friends, family, or colleagues for recommendations of caterers that they have employed for their events.
- Some caterers will provide you with letters of references or phone numbers of clients that are willing to share their past experience with your caterer.
- Ask the client questions about the quality of the food, if they were satisfied with the waitstaff/service, and ask about the overall presentation of the event.
Leftovers
- What is your caterer's leftover policy? Do not assume that all of the leftovers are automatically yours. Most caterers make extra food for unexpected guests and to feed their staff. You are paying per person, much like a restaurant. However, some brides/grooms/hosts do not have time to eat during their reception/event. Therefore, some caterers will provide a leftover basket of their food. The couple can have a romantic picnic for two on their honeymoon and enjoy themselves when all of the commotion is over with.
Good Luck And Bon Appetit!
Copyright 2000 © Frances King, Moosetta's Creative Caterers
Wednesday, April 25, 2012
Cash Bar
The wedding is at a hotel, so of course everything is over priced. We are considering not having an open bar, but a cash bar. Some say a cash bar is tacky. What do you say? And if a cash bar is tacky, do you have any suggestions? Also, what other beverages would be okay to toast with?
You could opt for an open bar for a short period of time (1/2 hr-1 hr) and then cash, or only have beer/wine on the open bar and other drinks are cash (again limit the time). You and the site rep can agree up front to a specific amount of alcohol and when that's reached, you are notified and can decide to switch to cash only or serve more free. And, generally paying by the drink is less expensive also. If you have exhausted the reception budget before drinks, then have a cash bar, but provide the toasting drinks free. Also, you could consider having a bottle or so of wine at each table with dinner and then cash bar for everything else.
Champagne or a quality sparkling wine are the traditional drink for toasts. You can offer non-alcoholic beverages such as a non-alcoholic champagne, ginger ale, club soda, punch, or white grape juice for toasting as well.
Tuesday, April 24, 2012
Whipped Cream Frosting
I was told by a baker that "whipped cream icing" would not stand up in July here in Virginia. My reception is going to be in an indoor location that has AC. Is there any validity to what we where told. I don't like really rich (sweet) frosting.
We are in MN and in July it is very hot and humid (can be 90's to 100 degrees). I checked with a number of bakers that do wedding cakes and they all said whipped cream icing would be fine in an air conditioned reception site. They said they all would use whipped cream in July with no problem, including transporting it. I guess the only issue could be how far your cake would have to travel between the baker and the site. It may be a problem if the cake is outside in the heat for a long period of time.
Monday, April 23, 2012
The Wedding Cake
THE WEDDING CAKE
The wedding cake is as important as the bridal veil, gown, rings, etc. It may be as artistic – and sometimes as fantastic – as a designer's dream. It is usually decorated with intricate designs. The cake is sometimes placed as a centerpiece on the bridal table if there is one; if not, the cake sits on its own table so that it may be admired by everyone; or it may also form the centerpiece for a buffet table.
Wedding cakes may be square, oblong, or heart-shaped, but are usually a series of round tiers, sometimes separated by columns. The icing is usually white, but the cake can be frosted with a pastel icing to match the color scheme of your wedding. Usually an ornament, or fresh flowers, finishes off the top layer; or what is known as a "cake top." Many couples top their cake with a fun bride/groom, heart, or other topper, which becomes a keepsake remembrance of the wedding. The cake itself is made of a white pound cake or a yellow sponge cake – or you may want to be creative and have each layer be a different flavor. But try to stick to the basics.
UNIQUE CAKE TOPS
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The less familiar groom's cake is a dark, rich fruitcake, frequently iced to match and used as the top layer of the bride's cake. Traditionally, this cake is saved for the first anniversary of the couple. Because tradition has it that a piece of the bride's cake under a single woman's pillow will lead her to dream of her future husband, it's customary to cut the cake and serve it at the reception, with extra slices provided for guests to take home. Napkins or tiny boxes are supplied to those who wish to take pieces of cake home with them. If you won't be having a groom's cake, freeze the top layer of the bride's cake to share on your first anniversary.
In some traditions, the dark fruitcake is the main wedding cake (English). The pieces are all pre-cut with perhaps an almond on top, wrapped in cellophane and topped with a bow for guests to take home if they choose. An artificial cake is then sometimes used for the photographs.
Ordering the Cake
If you need ideas of what kind of cake you would like, why not ask some of your friends who were recently married, or look through photo albums at your local bakeries or caterers. Before you order, it is wise to taste a sample of their baking. Keep in mind that, generally speaking, not much cake is actually eaten. You don't want to have a lot left over and wasted. It is suggested that you order a cake that 'looks' big, but really isn't
It is also a good idea to make a check list of points to go over:
- Discuss number of guests.
- Shape and size of cake
- Batter (flavor)
- Filling
- Icing (colors)
- Designs
- Ornaments (cake top)
- Total price
- Deposit
- Time and date of delivery (if they deliver)
If you are thinking of making your own cake, keep in mind that the time right before your big day is the most hectic. Before you go ahead, check the cost of ingredients against the price of a professionally prepared cake. Then experiment with your recipe way ahead of time, and make the real thing at least two days before you decorate it; it's easier to ice when it's not too fresh.
Cutting the Cake
The wedding cake should be cut just before dessert at a luncheon or dinner reception, just after the guests have been received at a tea or cocktail reception. Your groom places his right hand over yours and together you cut into the bottom layer with a ribbon-tied silver knife. The bride and groom traditionally share the first slice as a symbol of their willingness to share each other's household from then on.
It is a loving gesture for the bride to give her new in-laws their pieces after that, then the groom to service his. The rest of the cake is then cut by a friend, designated in advance, or by a member of the caterer's staff, and served to the guests.
Use a thin, sharp or serrated knife. Insert knife into cake, keeping point down, and handle up. Slice, pulling knife toward you. If frosting sticks, dip knife in hot water or wipe with damp paper towel after cutting each slice.
Round Tiered Cake
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- Round layers can be cut into wedges, diamonds or slices.
Square Tiered Cake
The cutting procedure for square tiered cake is essentially the same as for a round tiered cake.
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Sunday, April 22, 2012
When to Buy Dress?
When should I start looking/purchasing a dress?
It will probably take you a month or so to find the dress you want and then it can take 4-6 months once you order it for it to be delivered. Then it will take time to alter it (they all need alterations) and you want to allow some slack in here just in case... So, I would suggest starting to look for a dress as soon as possible. Think about the size of the dress and if you are going to lose/gain weight before the wedding. Buy the closest size to what you will be at the time of your wedding. Look in the Advice section in EZWeddingPlanner (top menu bar) and check out Bridal Attire for lots of good info about dresses.
Saturday, April 21, 2012
Weddings on a Small Budget
WEDDINGS ON A SMALL BUDGET
You do not have to spend an exorbitant amount of money to have a lovely wedding. Know in advance what you intend to spend on your wedding and stick to it. There is no reason to go into huge debt to have a nice wedding. Remember that you will be just as married if you spend $1,000 than if you spend $30,000. Here are a few tips on cost-cutting.
The Elopement
The ultimate in simplicity. Just go get married and forget the elaborate planning and disagreements that can occur in larger weddings. You could simply do it locally, or consider combining it with your honeymoon and have a destination wedding, like a tropical beach or a cruise. If you like, you can invite immediate family, maid of honor and best man (and their spouse/guest) to go along for the wedding. Make it a long weekend or stay for weeks and enjoy! There are many travel agents who specialize in weddings and can give you great advice as to the details. You will save lots of money if you do this off-season (Summer is off-season in the Caribbean or Hawaii and Winter is off-season in Europe). Many hotels offer honeymoon packages, so check with a number of travel agents and compare. This can be a cost-effective and very romantic and memorable wedding experience. Then you can decide later if you want a reception for other friends and relatives after the fact (which isn't a necessity).
The Bride's Attire
One way to save tons of money is to find a nice, off-the-shelf dress in a department store. If you aren't going for the big white wedding, this is a reasonable alternative. Nothing says you must have a traditional wedding. Or if you have access to one, wear an heirloom dress of your mother or grandmother's. With a bit of alteration, this can be a memorable, sentimental wedding dress.
But, if you want the story-book, white gown, you still do not have to spend a fortune. Start at the sale racks in a bridal shop. Discontinued styles or overstocks can save bundles. Also consider buying a sample dress (if you are the right size). You would probably want to dry-clean it before the wedding. Consider less expensive fabrics (like polyester blend vs. 100% silk), and generally the less ornate and beaded the dress, the less the cost. If you order a dress, order it with plenty of time for delivery and alterations, so you don't need to pay rush charges. See Bridal Attire for lots of details on wedding dresses, etc.
Another option is to have your dress sewn for you. Be sure you have a seamstress who you trust and has done wedding dresses before. Check references with other brides and see if they were happy with the work. Consignment stores are an option, but carefully check the dress and compare the prices to new dresses, as sometimes they can even be more costly. Check ads from brides who have called off their weddings.
A great option to save money is to make your own headpiece and veil. Look through bridal magazines and check out the bridal store veils and then go to your local fabric store. You can buy inexpensive, ready made bridal headpieces and lots of veil material. With very little work, you can easily save $100 or more on the veil. Make your own headpiece from scratch and save even more. Consider your hair style first and then choose a headpiece. Match it to your dress and overall look desired.
When it comes to shoes, you can wear a pair of white shoes you already have. It will probably be hidden by the dress and it will certainly be more comfortable than trying to break in new shoes on this important day. Or, ballet slippers are inexpensive and would look and feel fine.
The Groom's Attire
Talk about money-saving. Wow! There is nothing wrong with simply wearing a dark suit you already own. The same goes for the groomsmen. There is no law that says you must rent a tux. Add a boutonniere and your outfit is complete. But if you want to go the tux route, some tips include sticking with the standard black rental tuxedo, which is inexpensive and classic looking. Avoid wedding dates close to prom time, as tuxedos are in high demand then. See Grooms Guide for lots of details on renting groom and groomsmen formalwear.
The Bridal Party
The larger the bridal party, the greater the cost. Consider that you will also invite the spouse or guest of each bridal party member, so if you have five each bridesmaids and groomsmen, you are now up to 20 people to seat and feed at your reception. This requires tables and centerpieces and maybe extra decorations for the bridal table(s). You also pay for bouquets and boutonnieres for each, thank you presents for 10 people, perhaps more transportation (limo) from wedding to reception site, and maybe extra money to help cash-strapped bridesmaids pay for their expensive clothing. In addition, the more bridesmaids you have, the greater the stress and hassle you will have. For every bridesmaid you add, the disagreement factor rises dramatically. One or two attendants will save you money and stress. One cost saver for dresses is to check out good department stores. They have a wide variety of dresses off-the-shelf that might make you and your bridesmaids happy. Or, order then through a catalog for great savings. For information on who does what, see Wedding Party and Their Duties.
The Wedding Date
Schedule your date at least three weeks before or after any holiday. These are the busiest times of the year for most vendors, including churches, hotels, restaurants, florists, bands, DJs, etc. Not only will you pay a premium, but service and quality may suffer during holidays. It's also a good idea to schedule around sports events or other major events in your town. Besides saving you money, it will be easier for your guests to travel to your sites when the traffic is calmer. Saturdays almost always command a higher price than other weekend days and certainly more than weekdays. Also busy wedding months will cost you more than if you get married in an off-month. The biggest wedding months are September/October and June/July. You can save big bucks if you get married in, for example, April or November. But, consider the weather in your area. Spring or Fall usually works better than Winter. Negotiate with your vendors for better pricing for your date.
The Guest List
The more people you invite to your wedding and reception, the greater the cost. The smaller the guest list, the more you save on invitations, food, liquor, centerpieces, musicians,
The Site
If your home or that of a friend or relative is large enough to accommodate the number of guests you plan to invite, you can save a ton of money. Do any home renovations and major landscaping far in advance of the wedding. You can rent trellises, archways, gazebos, etc. if you don't already have them and decorate them with flowers, or have the ceremony inside by a fireplace, or other pretty location with lots of room for guests. Consider inviting the neighbors, since there will be increased noise and congestion. Send a map with the invitations if you think guests will have a hard time finding the site. Mark the outside with balloons or signs. See below for more outdoor suggestions and catering/food ideas.
If you have a small wedding, a backyard barbecue or picnic in the park or beach is great. It is intimate and relaxed and is easy for the bride and groom to mingle with their guests. For larger guest lists, consider hiring a caterer who can also deal with tents, tables, etc. But check out their prices vs. those of a hotel or other facility to be sure you are indeed saving money here. You can also consider a public park or beach, but make contingency plans for bad weather. Check out places like Elks, American Legion and other clubs. They can be decorated wonderfully and you can have both the ceremony and reception in one place which will also save money. Unfortunately, some churches have instituted very high fees for their facilities/services, so you may want to check out several before choosing. On the other hand, some are very reasonable and if they have a large basement or fellowship room, you can save lots of money by having your reception there. Officiants also come in different price ranges, so shop around. You also do not need excessive decorations. If you book a banquet room from a hotel, often times this includes the draped tables and centerpieces and many other extras. You can probably negotiate many extras too. See reception for lots of details. Remember, off peak dates and days of the week and times of day will save you a bundle.
There are many locations that specifically cater to outdoor weddings and will be able to coordinate all the details. If you are planning it yourself, here's some things to think about. Back up tents or other cover are a good idea, in case of rain or blazing sun that will melt not only your cake, but also your guests. Tents should be set up several days prior to the event to ensure dry ground underneath. Have an adequate number of chairs for both the wedding and reception. If the reception will go into the evening, you will want lights and perhaps heaters, depending on weather. If insects are a problem in your area, consider pre-spraying with insecticide or lighting punk sticks or citronella candles. If you want dancing, you may want to rent a portable dance floor. Also remember to consider the needs of any of your guests who may have special handicap or accessibility needs. Parking and rest room facilities should also be adequate for the number of guests you are planning.
The Food and Drink
Simple appetizers set on a table will cost less than passed hors d'oeuvres, because you don't need extra people to walk around serving them. Or, do away with the appetizers altogether and shorten the cocktail hour to one-half hour. This will not only save on food bills but also liquor bills. Look into buffet vs. sit down meals. They may be less expensive. Also selecting chicken instead of beef, etc. can considerably reduce the meal bill. One great way to cut down on food costs is to time the wedding (like early afternoon) so that you can just serve drinks and appetizers or cake and champagne or finger sandwiches, etc. after the service. People will drink less and not expect a large meal. If you serve wine, beer, and soft drinks, your bar bill will be considerably less than including other liquors. And if you stop serving alcohol an hour before closing and serve coffee and water, you will not only save money but have less inebriated guests. See Low Cost Ideas for catering info. Also Do It Yourself catering ideas.
The Cake
First off, don't let your caterer talk you into serving other desserts also. The wedding cake is the dessert, so save your money on the others. Negotiate to get rid of cake-cutting fees (get this in writing). Consider a small decorated cake for you to cut at the reception and then a sheet cake of the same flavor cut in the kitchen to serve the guests. If you have a talented friend or relative who makes wedding cakes, this would be a great wedding gift from them to you. Many home-made cakes are better tasting and as beautifully decorated as cakes from a bakery. See Cake Ordering and Cutting for lots of cake details.
There are some books that say don't buy a supermarket wedding cake. However, when one of our daughters was married, three people taste-tested numerous specialty wedding cake bakeries against the supermarket cake and were much happier with the later. It tasted better, looked beautiful, was less expensive, and they made a new first anniversary cake for free as part of the package. And as a bonus, the guests loved it and some still talk about the great cake. So, check out your local supermarket bakery as a viable source and do your own taste-test.
The Flowers
Using in-season flowers and/or those locally grown instead of exotic flowers will save you money. As mentioned earlier, the smaller the bridal party, the less bouquets you need to buy. Talk with your florist on budget cutting methods that will still be beautiful, but less expensive. For instance, there are many varieties of roses, some very expensive while others are very reasonable. Using a few, larger flowers even though they may be expensive, may be an overall economical choice - like Calla lilies. See the in-depth discussion on flowers for more details. As far as the reception site is concerned, you can decorate it without using flowers. Mirrors and candles are great and many reception sites will provide
The Transportation
If you are budget-challenged, simply skip the limo. A nice car will do just as well. Full-size cars are desirable (to fit the large dresses) and if you don't have one or know someone who does, you can inexpensively rent one or more for the wedding day. This will be less expensive than renting a limo for a few hours. But if you do go with a limo, generally black is less expensive than white. If you have a large bridal party, consider one larger limo versus several smaller ones. Many companies offer wedding packages that add goodies like signs, decorations and champagne. Ask for the car without the extras and save your money.
The Printed Materials
If you have less than 50 guests, skip the formal invitations and send hand-written notes or telephone (if local). If you go the printing route, be sure they are light enough to be sent with the least amount of postage. Going over 1 ounce will increase your costs. Tips on lightening the mailing and saving money include: skip the tissue paper, use small postcards as the reply cards (also saving you return postage), print reception info at the bottom of the invitation avoiding separate reception cards. You could also print RSVP info at the bottom of the invitation and skip the return cards altogether. If you have a computer, you could design and print your own invitations. There are some very nice paper stock and envelopes to be found in stores or on-line. One helpful Internet site is InvitationsEtc. which has lot of information on doing your own inviations/programs etc. You can also do your own wedding programs. They can be easily designed and printed at home. See ceremony programs for more detail. If ordering invitations, programs and other printed materials, consider ordering on-line or through catalogs for bargains. Thermography is less expensive than engraving on printed matter. The paper stock also varies in price and you could save money here.
The Decorations and Favors
Decorations can be simple, yet look nice. Depending on your locations and number of guests, you can make your own, rent them, or often they are included in reception site packages. First, ask the reception site what decorations they can provide for free. This also goes for the ceremony site - often Churches have candelabras and candles, etc. that they will let you use (or rent for a small fee). They may also have pew bows or at least pew bow holders. Go to your local craft store and buy ribbon in bulk to make your own bows. Ribbon with a wire edge will hold the bow look and stand up better. If you have a dull looking reception room, consider renting inexpensive trees and decorating them with twinkle lights - particularly for late afternoon or evening affairs. You can decorate with plants bought at a local nursery, garden store, outlet or retail store. Small potted plants make nice table decorations and guests can take them home as souvenirs/favors. If you have a southwestern theme, consider small cacti. Christmas time weddings could give ornaments engraved with the year. Easter time you could use jelly beans or decorated eggs. Mirrors and candles also make great table decorations. You can use tall candles or votive. Check out local craft stores (like Michaels) for ideas on decorating supplies (ribbons, baskets, tulle, candle holders - 3 to 4 per table, wedding supplies, etc.) You may also see some great ideas there for making your own favors. They can be as simple as nuts and/or candy on each table to something more elegant like personalized mints or chocolates. Small picture frames (with their place cards or a picture of the two of you) make nice favors. Fabric or silk flowers tied with ribbons inscribed with your name and wedding date make colorful favors as well as table decorations. Seedling packets or tree saplings for planting are unique and represent the growth of your marriage. For very inexpensive favors, consider poetry or a thank you note printed on paper and folded into fan shapes (accordion-pleated) which can also be decorated with ribbon. Or rolled scroll-like and tied with a ribbon. For the gamblers at heart, how about lottery tickets. Small, heart shaped refrigerator magnets make nice favors (again, check out craft stores). And, there are many vendors online who sell fun favors inexpensively. See the Sponsors section for some favor ideas.
Other Cost Savers
Make your own tapes for reception music and/or use a multi-disc CD player with your favorite CDs. A DJ will cost less than a live band. Have a friend or relative sing a solo at your ceremony as their gift to you. If you are cash strapped, skip the favors at each table. Post seating arrangements on an easel instead of individual placecards, or have open seating. Skip the goodies like ice sculptures, personalized napkins and matches, balloon hearts, chair covers, ceiling decorations, bubble blowers and rice or bird seed packets, bird releases, etc.
Friday, April 20, 2012
Budget Average Costs
What is an average budget on weddings?
It's hard to say an average cost, because some of our brides have $1000 weddings and some have $35,000 weddings or more and everything in between. One of our brides spent over $150,000 on her wedding. It depends on the number of guests you have, the location, and how elaborate you want it. Some brides spend 3 to 4 thousand on their dress alone, while others spend $500 or less. Also different parts of the country cost more or less for the same size function. With 100 to 150 guests you can probably figure somewhere in the $10,000 to $20,000 range for a sit-down meal reception. We recommend that you first figure out how much you have to spend and then fit the wedding around the budget. We do not recommend going into debt or your parents going into debt to host a party that will last one day. You can have a beautiful wedding on a small, realistic budget.
Thursday, April 19, 2012
Browser Trouble
I am having trouble seeing the EZWeddingPlanner plan on my computer screen?
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Wednesday, April 18, 2012
Bridesmaid Party
What is the bridesmaid's party? Is it the bridal shower or a special party for the bridesmaids?
A bridesmaid's party is a get-together to thank the members of your wedding party. You can give your attendants their thank-you gifts and go over the wedding schedule. It can be anything from an informal luncheon to an up-scale dinner party and anything in between, like breakfast, desserts or crackers/cheese at your place. If some attendants are traveling from out of town, you can even do this the morning or afternoon of the wedding or the day before. If they all live around you, it's probably more relaxed to do it a few days or a week before the wedding. Another possibility is to give them gifts before the rehearsal or at the rehearsal dinner, although this is less intimate because there are generally more people present. And there is less time to just chit-chat with only your bridesmaids. Bridal Showers are for you to receive presents and the focus is on you. They are probably not the place to give your attendants their special thank you gifts.
Tuesday, April 17, 2012
Where to Find Bra?
I was wondering if anyone could help me? I am having a really hard time finding the right bra to wear with my wedding dress. I need a long line bra. My wedding dress has a diamond opening in the back and if I was to wear a regular bra the clasps would show. I can not find one that has enough support and is low enough for the dress. HELP!! P.S. It can have straps it does not have to be strapless.
Several places to try: David's Bridal (they are nationwide) said they have a one piece panty/bra combined that has lots of support but has a low waist in back. It is strapless and comes in sizes 32 to 42.
Another suggestion (from a very large breasted friend of ours) is to go to a high end (good quality) department store and check with the lingerie dept. They should have bra specialists. They can measure you and if they don't have what you need in stock they can special order it (special made or from their catalog of bras). She said she has her bras special made because she needs lots of support and had the same problem as you.
Monday, April 16, 2012
Large Budget
We have a budget of approx. $30,000 to $35,000 please help me figure out exactly how this money should be spent!
Wander around the proposed budget in EZWeddingPlanner and see where you might improve things. You need to decide which items are really important to you and allocate the money accordingly. For some brides it is the dress and flowers, others want to have a wonderful reception location and sit down meal. It also depends on how many guests you invite - the more guests, the higher the cost. If you can't figure out how to spend it all on the wedding and/or a larger reception, how about more for honeymoon and/or new house expenses?
Sunday, April 15, 2012
Best Man Duties
I am a first time "Best Man" and I really don't know what my responsibilities include. I'm looking for advice & suggestions.
Some duties can include:
Saturday, April 14, 2012
Bachelor Party
At the bachelor party, does everyone bring gifts for the groom.
No, everyone does not have to bring gifts for the groom. In fact, sometimes the groom gives his gifts to his wedding party at his bachelor party, although this can also be done at the rehearsal dinner. A bachelor party is a get together of his close male friends and relatives and can be anything from a softball game and a keg of beer, a camping trip, a night out at the casino or racetrack, etc. to a co-ed party including spouses and girlfriends. It doesn't have to be a burlesque show and get the groom drunk party.
The attendees of a bachelor party can be the groom's attendants, school and current friends invited to the wedding, brothers and close cousins. The groom's father and the bride's father and brothers may also be included if you want.
Thursday, April 12, 2012
Who Pays
I have a bridesmaid who's mother assumes that I am paying for her dress and her son's (2) tuxedo's for my wedding, I don't have that kind of money, is it alright for me to tell her to pay for her own items?
It is customary for the bridesmaids and groomsmen to pay for their own attire, although a bride/groom may volunteer to help with expenses if they are able. If it is too great an expense for the people you have asked to be in your wedding, and you are also unable to help with the cost, allow them to graciously decline and select someone else. Or, if this isn't an option, consider less expensive bridesmaids' dresses (off the shelf dresses) and/or suits (which they probably already own) vs. tuxedos for the groomsmen. It is not essential that all attendants dress alike and a variety of colors can make for an interesting and beautiful wedding. If you are planning to give the bridesmaids and groomsmen gifts as thank you's, you may consider putting that money towards the wedding attire and/or giving less expensive gifts.
Wednesday, April 11, 2012
Wedding Announcements
Announcements are generally sent to people who were not invited to the wedding, but who you want to notify of your marriage. These can include business associates, geographically distant family and friends, neighborhood or church acquaintances, holiday-card lists, etc. They are generally not sent to anyone who received an invitation. Announcements can be ordered at the same time as invitations and are similar in look. They should be addressed and ready to mail directly after the wedding. Parents or honor attendants can mail them, if the bride and groom leave immediately for the honeymoon. Remember, neither the invitations nor the announcements obligate the recipient to send a gift.
You can enclose a name card with your announcements to tell your friends and colleagues of your preference. Michelle Lynn Davis will be changing her name to Michelle Lynn Carter following her marriage September 25, 2000. Or, substitute your maiden name for middle name: Michelle Lynn Davis will be changing her name to Michelle Davis Carter following... Or, The bride will retain the name Michelle Lynn Davis after her marriage.
| Announcements must always have a year line, and time of ceremony is never mentioned. It is optional to mention the ceremony site. | Mr. and Mrs. Philip Paul Johnson |
| OR | Mr. and Mrs. Philip Paul Johnson |
| OR | Mr. and Mrs. Philip Paul Johnson |
| When parents are divorced wording may vary as in invitations | Mary Anderson Davis |
| When parents announce marriage of young divorcee | Mr. and Mrs. Philip Paul Johnson |
| Divorcee and her new husband announce their marriage | Susan Johnson Spensor |
| Announcement For Mature Widow | Mrs. Carol Martin |
Recommended Announcement Resources |
Tuesday, April 10, 2012
50th Anniversary
This is my friend's 50th wedding anniversary and I need help in designing the program.
Make the couple's honeymoon destination your theme. For example, if they went to Hawaii, decorate with flower garlands, serve tropical drinks, play Don Ho CDs, and roast a pig. If they went to Paris, hang travel posters, play Edith Piaf CDs, and serve French food (click for recipes). Don't forget to include framed pictures from their honeymoon album (you might also want to copy one for the front of the party invitations). If the couple didn't have a honeymoon, why not send them on one? (The party decor can serve as a gentle hint for the gift presentation at the end of the evening.) Other gift ideas include: a video made from old home movies, a collage of photos from the last 50 years, or even a special anniversary greeting from the president of the United States! (Just write to the White House, Greetings Office, Room 39, 1600 Pennsylvania Avenue NW, Washington D.C. 20500-1600 and allow four to six weeks for delivery.) The 50th is the Gold anniversary, so the program could be printed on gold paper or using gold ink or tied with gold ribbon, etc. You could check out our Plan/Great Ideas section for program suggestions, to see if any of this applies to what you are doing.
Monday, April 9, 2012
Anniversary Names
Anniversary Names
| Anniversary | Traditional | Modern |
| First | Paper or Plastics | Clocks |
| Second | Cotton or Calico | China |
| Third | Leather | Crystal, Glass |
| Fourth | Silk | Electrical Appliances |
| Fifth | Wood | Silverware |
| Sixth | Iron | Wood |
| Seventh | Copper or Wool | Desk Sets |
| Eighth | Electrical Appliances | Linens, Laces |
| Ninth | Pottery | Leather |
| Tenth | Tin, Aluminum | Diamond Jewelry |
| Eleventh | Steel | Fashion Jewelry |
| Twelfth | Linen | Pearls |
| Thirteenth | Lace | Textiles, Furs |
| Fourteenth | Ivory | Gold Jewelry |
| Fifteenth | Crystal, Glass | Watches |
| Twentieth | China | Platinum |
| Twenty-fifth | Silver | Silver |
| Thirtieth | Pearl | Diamond |
| Thirty-fifth | Coral, Jade | Jade |
| Fortieth | Ruby | Ruby |
| Forty-fifth | Sapphire | Sapphire |
| Fiftieth | Gold | Gold |
| Fifty-fifth | Emerald | Emerald |
| Sixtieth | Diamond | Diamond |
The Nameday Book: A Book of Saints, Names, Anniversaries and Celebrations
Our Wedding Anniversary Memory Book
Wedding Blessings: Prayers and Poems Celebrating Love, Marriage and Anniversaries
Sunday, April 8, 2012
Alcohol
What would be the normal amount of alcohol to get if you were going to buy the alcohol for your reception of 300 people for beer and mixed drinks and champagne for the toast?
There are a lot of variables... the ages of your guests, the time of day of the reception and how long it will go, inside or outside reception, etc. Also, do you think more of your guests are beer drinkers or wine drinkers or mixed drink people. This will determine somewhat the variety of what you buy. Some people may also specify certain brands of liquor that they prefer and soda water, tonic water, etc. And many people will not drink alcohol at all, so you would also want pop, water, or punch, etc. for those guests.
Your best bet would be to ask the liquor store (where you will be purchasing the alcohol from) these questions. They know how many cups a keg of beer holds (you can get different sizes). You might be able to figure out a bottle of booze by dividing 1 1/2 to 2 oz. of liquor in the total oz. size of the bottle. 60 oz of Windsor = 30 to 40 drinks, a bottle of wine = 4 - 6 glasses, etc. You could figure 1-2 drinks per hour per drinking guest. Also check if you can return any unopened bottles or kegs for your money back.
For the champagne toast, you can probably get 7-8 glasses per bottle (depending again on the size of the bottle). So you need to figure out how many people will get champagne glasses (children probably won't). Also you may want some non-alcoholic for those who do not/cannot drink alcohol.
Or, if you are having the food catered, they may have good guestimates. You may consider hiring several bartenders for 300 guests, in which case they will probably know the mix that is appropriate.
Saturday, April 7, 2012
$5,000 or Less
I want to have a cost effective wedding reception, but still include a buffet dinner and provide beer and wine. Am I being realistic to want to keep the cost to $5000 or less?
It depends on where your reception is held, how many people you are inviting, and what food you are serving, etc. Many locations will cost more than others and the more people, obviously the greater the cost. Given all that, I think you should be able to do what you want for $5,000 or less.
Some brides have family or friends make the food, buy their own beer and wine, and have the reception at someone's home or at a local park. Check on permits if you want liquor in a park. This greatly reduces the cost. I've even seen the wedding ceremony done in a park pavilion with the reception in the park following.
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